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Differentiating Happiness and Pleasure

To me happiness is more of a long term and continuous, while pleasure is a short term. Happiness would me, for example, when I help take someone to the bathroom with respect and sense of responsibility, that person eventually feels so thankful at the end. That gives me happiness. Happiness not because someone feels or says thank you to me, but because that person was satisfied by my act of kindness. I will always be able to feel good and happy about how I lended my hand to a person who is in need.

Pleasure on the other hand, lack that sense of long term satisfaction. It is a short term. For instance, drinking alcohol makes some people feel good for that moment. But once that alcohol effect wears off, you come back to normal; that satisfaction/pleasure is not anymore present there. Sometimes I feel like pleasure seems to fall in the negative category.

Using Someone As a Back up

This has happened to me before and it happened again today. My ex and I had made a plan to see each other this evening, but while getting ready she calls me up and says she gotto give her brothe a ride. I told her that’s ok and also we should cancel our meet up. She insisted we do meet tonight. So I said ok and went to her apt. Halfway on my way, she says her her brother needs a ride right that moment and insinuated I should go back home. This type of incidents have occurred before.

little reflections on life

Realizing another “western year” is coming to an end, I personally like to reflect on the past year. It feels good to get an idea on positive and negative things I was confronted with, what I learned out of it, how it influenced me, what I adopted or abandoned…

All the little pieces put together will sum up to one big piece, which is living and following your way. It always is good to reflect and learn, but we only can experience real life in the present moment. We all know that the past already happened and the future is not taking place yet. Being tentative in the current moment is what really counts – that means living.

Happy new year!

life and daily challenges

To simply living life in presence, while being tentative is a difficult but important buddhist practice. If you live with your eyes open, there is so much you can learn from your every day experience – you just have to be open minded for it!

Since I’m getting more and more in to Buddhist’s philosophy, it puts a smile on my face, when I realize new challenges arising. To give you an example, some one I know is currently with the army in a war territory. First that was a big chock to me, but getting deeper in to it, it helped me practice love and compassion. Further more I learned a big deal out of it in terms of death – realizing what an important issue it is and facing that death always can happen. Since ever I’m trying to live my life having in mind that you never know when it might be your last day. That is a great gift, cause you tend to do things straight ahead and do not postpone it. It makes your life more focused, real and straight.

Another experience I recently had was how near by opposites really are – this one is difficult to explain. But it reminds me in a phrase his Holiness the 14th Dalai Lama once said “we can not practice patience and compassion without our enemies”.  A few days ago I was in a very emotional and sad mood. I guess I haven’t felt that bad for a long time. While analyzing what I’m going through, I realized that it is this weakness that gives me the strength to go on, and it is the sad feeling making me happy, because I know what it is for. And while realizing that I have to develop even more patience, so I simply continue… this based on my impatience as well.

To conclued these thoughts: you never know what your karma is like, but you have to be open for it and for the every day challenges… this will take you a good portion further on you way!

If i were your age, i would go for you

So today an old lady who I took care of said this to me. It made me feel good and she also added, “you have so many nice qualities.” This one now made me feel really good. One thing I learned from this is that it is always a good idea to express your thankfulness, it makes a big difference.

LOL – age discrimination at strip club company

I have really no say on this: 44 year old stripper woman sues strip club for firing her because of her age. Age discrimination or invalid lawsuit? I feel like we need more information her, the strip club employment policy and age discrimination law.

Waiting for blackberry storm

I haven’t researcher about this new cell phone blackberry, but what I already heard is that it got same touchscreen mode as iPhone along with some other cool features.

I think iPhone will still remain at the top for it not only pioneered this revolution but its open source sdk application is unmatchable. You get to download iPhone apps, both paid and free, from already popular itunes browser. I hate monopoly, so I hope other cell phone companies will follow suit of iPhone – thinking outside the box.

Temptation costing me a lot

I define temptation as a strong tendency that affects you negatively. In my case, temptations include daily consumption of soda pop.

I never thought I would reach that close to addiction of soda pop – yup, I don’t think I m addicted to it yet. I have a problem curbing my thirst for soda drinks. I know I can drink water or fruit juices, but I long for soda too much. I drink one 12 ounce soda can a day atleast. I m just waiting for diabetes to happen to me.

Speaking Up is not a baf thing or is it?

Speaking up has always been a daunting task for me. Up until recent years I have never really spoken up for that matter. But I am starting to speak up more often as I realize it is nothing bad about me if the reason I am doing that makes more sense than not doing it.

For the sake of sanity I have to speak up in circumstances that I can’t bear no more but has no other options.

There are also situation where the other party may not even realize how their behavior and action is affecting me without letting them know. I might hurt their feeling the time I speak up, but it will save my feeling and sanity from getting hurt too many times.

And speaking up is not necessarily a bad thing. Our society accepts people who truthfully speaks up as a leader; examples would be Martin Luther King who spoke up to achieve equal rights for African Americans.

Cold winter is here now

Few days ago it started the first snow of this winter season, but until today it didn’t really feel like a winter. Maybe it was because define winter as a very cold weather like it was today. I m usualy not outside that often for my days start late around noon and by the time I m done with everyhing it is dark outside.
But today I did really felt the chill, cold breeze.